Your brain values long-term benefits when they are in the future (tomorrow), but it values immediate gratification when it comes to the present moment (today). The problem is that ‘today’ and ‘the future’ are handled by different parts of your brain, which often don’t collaborate well with each other. So you bounce from one to the other … Continue reading Why your good intentions are doomed to fail
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One of the first things we often jettison when things get busy is our personal, family and social life. Yet, paradoxically, these are the things that tend to refuel us. We do need to slow down into a different pace to enjoy these things, and we often have an instinctive reluctance to do this when … Continue reading Do You Lose Your Personal Life When Things Get Busy?
“Each year I commit to getting healthier, but after a few weeks I make excuses about why I can’t go to the gym today or I give in to comfort food again. I just don’t understand why I’m so weak. I can be decisive – at work, for example – but not with this.” I hear … Continue reading Do Your Good Intentions Crumble?
The human mind is alchemical in nature. I've long been fascinated by this. What might seem solid and knowable ("this happened", "this is truth", "I can't change who I am") is a far more magical thing when approached at the deepest levels of mind. Most coaches work primarily with mindset matters. It's useful, certainly, but … Continue reading Working with the Alchemical Self
Imposter syndrome. A state of permanently feeling that you are not as good as people think, that deep down you are faking it. That it is only a matter of time before your cover gets blown. I have worked with so many high flying clients - managing entire departments of hundreds of people, for example … Continue reading High Performer But, Despite The Evidence, Do Not Feel High Performing On The Inside?
I hear something along these lines from a surprising number of my high performing clients. A situation occurs in which uncomfortable feelings come into play (such as anxiety, dread, anger, a strong need to avoid conflict) and they do something that stifles those feelings. It doesn't resolve the problem but it does mean they can … Continue reading Are Your ‘Pain Avoiding Habits’ Damaging Your Success?
Unplugging means mentally and emotionally putting everything down. It doesn't even have to be for long, to have a beneficial effect. A minute, five minutes, thirty seconds, even. The key thing here is the quality of our 'unplugging', whether it is in the small moments during the day, or the larger moments away on vacation. … Continue reading Are You Unplugging Enough?
'When what drives you at work changes, do you grieve it?' An interesting question that I was asked recently. My answer: I think it depends on how the 'thing that drives you' leaves your life. If it was forced upon you by circumstances, then yes, it will need to be grieved. I used to be … Continue reading When what drives you at work changes, do you grieve it?
“Even when I sold my business for $66 million, I felt like an absolute fraud!”-Shark Tank judge and real estate mogul, Barbara Corcoran This is what imposter syndrome looks like. So many highly capable people experience it. On the outside, you're highly competent. On the inside, you're quaking, afraid to be found out to be … Continue reading The Secret to Resolving Imposter Syndrome
I think there's a lot of misunderstanding about what burnout is. I frequently come across people, and, unfortunately, quite a few coaches too, who confuse stress with burnout and try to deal with it in the same way that they deal with stress. And unfortunately that will either make burnout worse, or it will just … Continue reading The Little Known Reason Why Burnout is Different to Stress
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