Why your good intentions are doomed to fail

Your brain values long-term benefits when they are in the future (tomorrow), but it values immediate gratification when it comes to the present moment (today). The problem is that ‘today’ and ‘the future’ are handled by different parts of your brain, which often don’t collaborate well with each other.  So you bounce from one to the other … Continue reading Why your good intentions are doomed to fail

Do You Lose Your Personal Life When Things Get Busy?

One of the first things we often jettison when things get busy is our personal, family and social life. Yet, paradoxically, these are the things that tend to refuel us. We do need to slow down into a different pace to enjoy these things, and we often have an instinctive reluctance to do this when … Continue reading Do You Lose Your Personal Life When Things Get Busy?

Working with the Alchemical Self

The human mind is alchemical in nature. I've long been fascinated by this. What might seem solid and knowable ("this happened", "this is truth", "I can't change who I am") is a far more magical thing when approached at the deepest levels of mind. Most coaches work primarily with mindset matters. It's useful, certainly, but … Continue reading Working with the Alchemical Self

High Performer But, Despite The Evidence, Do Not Feel High Performing On The Inside? 

Imposter syndrome. A state of permanently feeling that you are not as good as people think, that deep down you are faking it. That it is only a matter of time before your cover gets blown. I have worked with so many high flying clients - managing entire departments of hundreds of people, for example … Continue reading High Performer But, Despite The Evidence, Do Not Feel High Performing On The Inside? 

Are Your ‘Pain Avoiding Habits’ Damaging Your Success?

I hear something along these lines from a surprising number of my high performing clients. A situation occurs in which uncomfortable feelings come into play (such as anxiety, dread, anger, a strong need to avoid conflict) and they do something that stifles those feelings. It doesn't resolve the problem but it does mean they can … Continue reading Are Your ‘Pain Avoiding Habits’ Damaging Your Success?